Just sitting waiting for healing to happen doesn’t help: it only lengthens the process. Working to become a positive influence is what moves things forward. If you want help: Listen. When your loved one needs to talk, listen without trying to defend, explain, rationalise or excuse your behavior. Don’t try to correct their misperceptions or lessen their pain by minimising it. Validate. Don’t tell somebody, You should feel that way. When people talk about their pain, often they are doing the work necessary to help them heal. By letting them know their feelings are legitimate rather than waking them feel … Continue reading HEALING WOUNDED RELATIONSHIPS PART 2