HEALING WOUNDED RELATIONSHIPS, PART 3

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BY: GIVEN MOYO

There are no painless, foolproof guarantees: healing a relationship involves shared effort and risk. I have trust that ultimately you will forgive me and put the offense behind you, and you have to believe that i am sincere about changing. Healing wounded relationships is a two-person job. Your job is to work at trusting me again, and mine is to provide you with evidence that i am trustworthy. When we do that we invite one another’s co-operation, encourage each other and shorten the distance that separates us. Making a relationship work means deciding you have real and positive options, and both committing them. If your betrayal caused the wounds, you can make your own job easier by becoming more accountable. By voluntarily keeping your partner in the loop about your schedule, without their having to quiz you, you graduate from being the bad guy to becoming a full-fledged team member, pursuing a mutual game plan so you can both win. By agreeing to self-police you also remove the resentment one partner feels when the other monitors them. In other words, it relieves them of the dirty work of micromanaging you, and spares you the humiliation of feeling like you are always under the miscroscope. On the other hand, if you are the wounded part you can make your mate’s job easier by letting them know you value the relationship enough to make it work by keeping up your end. Tell them you appreciate their efforts. When healing a relationship becomes the main focus of both partners, and you include GOD WHO SAID I WILL RESTORE ( JEREMIAH 30: 17 ) IT WILL HAPPEN!

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